My beautiful girlfriend (let's call her Rachael; I want to keep her anonymous) is behaving in a very peculiar manner lately and I feel that she's acting very aloof and sort of estranged at my romantic gestures. Lately, I have been trying to find new ways of making her happy, and sometimes I feel compelled to discuss problems that are arising in our relationship, but every time I bring them up, she becomes very withdrawn and thinks I'm taking things for granted in the relationship.

I'm confused because I've always heard that stonewalling is a problem in relationships.

I broke up with her about 2 weeks ago because her importunate demands are becoming hackneyed and I felt unloved and like she was becoming bitter at my attempts to resolve issues.

My friend thinks that my girlfriend is no longer in the honeymoon phase and that I'm still stuck in the honey moon phase and I've been trying to find ways of recapturing that moment where oxytocin levels and dopamine levels soar to lofty heights and where we're both exercising unrestrained love in ways that never gets old.

I love my girlfriend; I love seeing her smile in many wonderful ways. I think it's time for me to figure out ways of making her happy after the honey moon phase and I'm trying to understand all of her facades.

Last night, on the webcam, I was bringing up instances wondering why in the beginning of the relationship she would say I love you 20 times a month, while I only said it 10 times. Sometimes I ramble and bring up irrelevant topics. She somehow thought that I was asking her to say I love you to me many times, when that's not true. I don't care how many times she says I love you, I'm curious about how relationship dynamics change over time, and I think me wondering that vexed her.

There are several things I have noticed. I have noticed that I'm taking a lower dose of Geodon, and I'm behaving sort of hypomanic.

My girlfriend stopped taking her Prozac and she's now on Zoloft, which increases dopamine more than Wellbutrin. Zoloft is a serotonin-dopamine agonist. Dopamine is increased 10% of the catecholamines that are increased, while serotonin (5HT1A) is increased 9 times more than Dopamine. She's behaving in a hypomanic way.

I've noticed that my girlfriend is acting slightly impulsive with her speech, she brings up weird scenarios and she seems like she's engaging in risk seeking behaviors. Last night, she plugged back the outlet after her mom told her to go to bed and she's behaving like a rebel, talking about her fantasies that she normally wouldn't bring up if she was still taking Prozac. I'm learning to accept these new facades; It's all exciting and everything, but I think it leads to constant disagreements because both of us are behaving hypomanic and we're oblivious to each others needs.

My girlfriend complains that I'm no longer pedantic with my speech and I'm not articulating in an intellectual manner; instead she's critiquing minor things about my vocabulary, saying how it's now limited and that I say fuck a lot.

Her criticisms are driving me crazy and I'm trying to accept her. She says I'm not accepting her flaws. I accept her but with her demands and criticisms, how am I supposed to accept this?

She hung up on me two times last night. I was upset by it. She blocked me last night on Google Plus and unblocked me later.

It's like she doesn't care.

Figuring out what she needs is hard when I can't discuss serious topics that bother me. I am so willing to discuss her topics and listen to everything she has to say, but I feel like she's oblivious to my needs and she ignores what I want to say.


I adulate her constantly, probably because I want to and I can't stop and I feel helpless and unloved.